However, the one subject no one ever talks about is how to prevent being a desperate dater. When the divorce dust settles and you feel ready to dip your big toe into the dating pool, you are often not prepared to come across the desperation of dating – either in yourself or in those you pick to date.
I’ve been desperate and I’ve dated desperate men. After my divorce, I met him at a party hosted by mutual friends. I was immediately drawn into him and thrilled when he asked me out to dinner for the following week. We met at a dining establishment and throughout the course of the evening, I kept informing myself how best he was for me. He was divorced and had a teenage child. In my mind, I was currently envisioning the three of us taking pleasure in enjoyable household occasions and holidays. I was so filled with hope and promise for the future.
When he called to ask me out for a second supper date, I giddily said, “Of course, I ‘d enjoy too. However, instead of heading out, I ‘d like to cook supper for you.” He accepted my deal and I continued to work so tough to impress him with my domestic capabilities. I actually wanted him to like me so I invested hours cooking a premium supper and producing a romantic atmosphere. Again, I believed the night was wonderful and we were predestined to be together.